10 Steps for Beating Imposter Syndrome

It can be challenging beating Imposter Syndrome, but the good news is that it can be done. By creating more self-awareness and by being committed to change, it is possible to develop yourself away from this disempowering phenomenon.

1 Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognise and accept that it is something that you are experiencing, and you are not alone. The feelings are very common and don’t equate to your own skills, competencies, and value that you bring.

2 Identify Triggers & strategies: Start to understand which situations or setting you are in when these feelings are triggered. When you can understand what might start the feeling you can then develop strategies that are right or the time and place to keep your focused and help you remain grounded. For example, often the thought of feeling ‘shame’ can prevent us from speaking out when we need to. However, if we can reconcile what the worst-case scenario is and know that we can handle it, then we instantly become less afraid.

For example, you may be afraid that you won’t thread all the information together in a big meeting. What if I look stupid? What if I should know that already? Etc. As a strategy you can reassure yourself that nobody can know everything all the time. You can pre-curse your question with something that makes you feel comfortable. For example, “I need to ask a question, and apologies if I should I know this, but I’m not joining the dots up for some reasons”. Often others are really glad that you have asked as they’ve probably been wondering too.

3 Challenge Negative Thoughts: Challenge your negative self-talk and any unsubstantiated thinking. Replace your thoughts of self-doubt with real evidence of your skills, and strengths and things you have previously accomplished. Keeping an evidence journal, by writing in every time that something goes well, so that you have real evidence to focus on not negative ‘what ifs.’

4 Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, mentors, or a coach or therapist about your feelings of imposter syndrome. Sharing your experiences with supportive individuals can provide reassurance and perspective, helping you realise that you’re not alone and this can be conquered.

5 Set Realistic Goals: Break down your goals into manageable tasks and set realistic expectations for yourself. Celebrate small wins as you go as this is all progress. You can download “Goal Setting Made Easy” as e book here: https://amzn.eu/d/aVgoqkc

6 Choose to think that Failure is Growth: Understand that failure is a natural part of the learning & developing. Rather than think that failing confirms your shortfalls, instead think of them as opportunities to build on your knowledge and experience. On average for every big success I have had I have had at least 3 failures. I now see this as great when I fail as it gets that one out of the way and I’m moving closer to success!

7 Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself! Treat yourself with kindness and compassion, especially during times of self-doubt. Remember that nobody is perfect, and it’s natural for everyone to experience setbacks. The less compassionate you are with yourself the more of your own confidence you will erode. Be your own best friend when talking to yourself!

8 Focus on Learning and Development: Rather than always look for others’ opinions to validate your worth, take on a growth mindset and be determined to improve.

9 Limit Social Comparison: Avoid comparing yourself to others, especially on social media, where people often present unrealistic views of their world. Remember that everyone has their own journey and struggles, and external appearances don’t always reflect reality. Someone wise once said to me ‘Dee, if you are going to compare yourself to anyone – make sure they are much worse’ Great advice!!

10 Celebrate Your Successes: Take time to acknowledge and celebrate your successes, no matter how small they appear to be. Think about the progress you have made and the skills and strengths that have got you here. Remember to put them in your Evidence journal.

By taking these steps these steps regularly and kindly, you will build your sense of self and confidence and erode the hold that Imposter Syndrome once had on you. Remember, overcoming imposter syndrome is a process, so be patient and kind to yourself along the way.